I’ve never really been one that likes to lend money. To friends or family.
A friend once told me she never lends money that she can’t afford to just give and not expect back. I really just try to not lend it out in any form. I hate asking for it back. I don’t like to lend someone money because generally right after you do they avoid you. And if they owe you money and you see them buying something, of course most people are like, hu? How can you buy [insert unnecessary object here], but you can’t pay me back?
I’m on an Oprah kick right now. I’ve been watching the 20th anniversary DVD collection lately. She said she doesn’t lend money. Ever. She just gives it away if she feels they need it. Since I can’t really adopt that mantra, I just try to avoid lending.
Which leads me to a situation I’ve landed in, although I really tried not too. Ugh. I purchased a few things for my mom that she asked me too. No big deal. I don’t mind and mom is great about paying me or trading for stuff. She owes me some money, which turned out to be the same amount my sister owes her. Since we are all going to be together this weekend for Thanksgiving, she said my sister could just pay me what she owes my mom and it would work out. Which it would. If my sister had the money to pay me. But now she doesn’t.
Her husband had a botched vasectomy that ended with him with an infection and off work for the last month. He is on short-term disability. I understand that money is tight for them. But I put things on my MasterCard for my mom, based that I would get paid this weekend. Now, my mom is out the money my sister owes her and I don’t feel right asking her to give me the money she owes me. She’s my mom! And she’d be out the amount double. So, what do I do? I don’t want to push my sister for the money or my mom for that matter. Financially I’m probably better off than they both are. However, why is it my responsibility to fund their issues? I don’t know what to do.
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Today is going to be great!
Today I'm going to have a good day. A positive outlook on this day.
Generally I'm a positive person. I'm very type A. I'm an optimist.
I repeat, today is going to be a good day!
I'm just wrapping up some left over things at work. I don't have a ton of work to do before I go on vacation, but I like to clean things up so I don't come back to a mess. Although, when I'm away people seem to like to stack files on my desk.
Today I'm grateful for:
1. A quiet evening last night with no arguments.
2. A good nights sleep, I think I only woke up once or twice last night!
3. The sun is out! 2 days in a row, the sun is out and it's (kind of) warm....I love fall, the leaves, the smells, the warm colors, usually the great weather (except for the insane amount of rain we've had...my yard is actually growing mushrooms it's so wet!)
Generally I'm a positive person. I'm very type A. I'm an optimist.
I repeat, today is going to be a good day!
I'm just wrapping up some left over things at work. I don't have a ton of work to do before I go on vacation, but I like to clean things up so I don't come back to a mess. Although, when I'm away people seem to like to stack files on my desk.
Today I'm grateful for:
1. A quiet evening last night with no arguments.
2. A good nights sleep, I think I only woke up once or twice last night!
3. The sun is out! 2 days in a row, the sun is out and it's (kind of) warm....I love fall, the leaves, the smells, the warm colors, usually the great weather (except for the insane amount of rain we've had...my yard is actually growing mushrooms it's so wet!)
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Lying
Why do people keep lying when you both know they are lying? Some stuff I get. I understand secrecy. I understand lying for a cause, although I prefer not too. What I don’t get is lying for no reason and then even once you’ve been proved to be lying, to keep the lie going. And argue and argue and argue over it. Why not just admit defeat?
C showed up last night. He was supposed to be working. He called me at 6:30pm last night and told me he was headed to a job. I knew he was on his way home. I could tell by what he said and how evasive he was. He wouldn’t tell me, answer his phone or texts after that. He text me at 8pm. Then showed up at the house at 10pm. He swore he slept the full 3 hour drive home and didn’t wake up until it was too late to let me know he was coming home. I asked how he could be sleeping the whole drive and not tell me he was coming home, but then could text me at 8pm, at which point he was almost half way back. He swears he didn’t know at 8 that he was coming home because he wasn’t driving. Look buddy, we both know you are lying, so why keep going with it? So that turned into a huge argument. Then he was mad that I had started packing. I’m tired today.
It’s harder today to find gratitude:
1. I’m thankful for my dog, who makes me smile every morning when she is always so excited to see me.
2. I’m thankful for my sister, and our relationship.
3. I’m thankful for my Step-mother, who I don’t always see eye to eye with on many things, but will someday be the person I go to for advice when it comes to step-children. We had a good chat on the phone this morning.
4. I’m thankful that I have my own office and on days like today, I can just close the door and work in peace.
5. I’m thankful that there are only 4 more work days until I’m on vacation for 9 days :)
C showed up last night. He was supposed to be working. He called me at 6:30pm last night and told me he was headed to a job. I knew he was on his way home. I could tell by what he said and how evasive he was. He wouldn’t tell me, answer his phone or texts after that. He text me at 8pm. Then showed up at the house at 10pm. He swore he slept the full 3 hour drive home and didn’t wake up until it was too late to let me know he was coming home. I asked how he could be sleeping the whole drive and not tell me he was coming home, but then could text me at 8pm, at which point he was almost half way back. He swears he didn’t know at 8 that he was coming home because he wasn’t driving. Look buddy, we both know you are lying, so why keep going with it? So that turned into a huge argument. Then he was mad that I had started packing. I’m tired today.
It’s harder today to find gratitude:
1. I’m thankful for my dog, who makes me smile every morning when she is always so excited to see me.
2. I’m thankful for my sister, and our relationship.
3. I’m thankful for my Step-mother, who I don’t always see eye to eye with on many things, but will someday be the person I go to for advice when it comes to step-children. We had a good chat on the phone this morning.
4. I’m thankful that I have my own office and on days like today, I can just close the door and work in peace.
5. I’m thankful that there are only 4 more work days until I’m on vacation for 9 days :)
Monday, October 4, 2010
A little of this...
I really wanted this week to be a good one. I have this week and then I’m off all of next week. I’m going to see R, my mom, my sister and her kids and R again. Plus a good friend while I’m in BC. I’m super excited about that.
I have a ton of things to do this week to get ready to leave. I’m getting my nails done Wednesday after work (ya, ya I know, gel nails, but seriously, in the hour it takes every 3 weeks I swear it takes less time and they look great! It’s my only girly indulgence, give me a break lol). Thursday I have to get my SUV serviced and checked out. Plus laundry, packing and organizing. I have a ton of stuff to bring with me.
I’ve been at work for an hour and a half and I already have a complaint. Why do the stupid service writers not answer there telephone pages??? So, I’m forced to answer and then when I do and put the guy on hold to ask the foreman if we can do the job (so not my job to be doing this) then she runs in as the hero and takes the call, books it and ignores me while I’m telling her I already spoke to that person. I mean, come on! Grrrr…so annoying.
Why does C find it absolutely necessary to call me incessantly during the day? I’m at work! Hello!!! And then leaves me voicemails saying he needs to speak to me right away about his dying uncle and then when I call him back, he ignores my calls? Arg.
Ok, *sigh* today I’m grateful for:
1. A friend of mine, whose going through a rough time, and even though I’m a bit upset with her, she finally had a good weekend and met a guy that made her feel like the beautiful person she is.
2. R finally got a long distance calling plan yesterday. After 6 months of me calling, it’s really nice for him to call me instead. Silly, but still makes me smile.
3. 5 more days until vacation!!!!!
4. I packed boxes yesterday. In one way it was hard to start putting my stuff away and splitting our lives apart, but in another it was the best form of therapy. It felt like a step in the right direction.
5. I found some ginger citrus hand cream from last year. I’m in love with this stuff and I swear if I could I’d walk around all day smelling my hands…mmmm….heaven!
I have a ton of things to do this week to get ready to leave. I’m getting my nails done Wednesday after work (ya, ya I know, gel nails, but seriously, in the hour it takes every 3 weeks I swear it takes less time and they look great! It’s my only girly indulgence, give me a break lol). Thursday I have to get my SUV serviced and checked out. Plus laundry, packing and organizing. I have a ton of stuff to bring with me.
I’ve been at work for an hour and a half and I already have a complaint. Why do the stupid service writers not answer there telephone pages??? So, I’m forced to answer and then when I do and put the guy on hold to ask the foreman if we can do the job (so not my job to be doing this) then she runs in as the hero and takes the call, books it and ignores me while I’m telling her I already spoke to that person. I mean, come on! Grrrr…so annoying.
Why does C find it absolutely necessary to call me incessantly during the day? I’m at work! Hello!!! And then leaves me voicemails saying he needs to speak to me right away about his dying uncle and then when I call him back, he ignores my calls? Arg.
Ok, *sigh* today I’m grateful for:
1. A friend of mine, whose going through a rough time, and even though I’m a bit upset with her, she finally had a good weekend and met a guy that made her feel like the beautiful person she is.
2. R finally got a long distance calling plan yesterday. After 6 months of me calling, it’s really nice for him to call me instead. Silly, but still makes me smile.
3. 5 more days until vacation!!!!!
4. I packed boxes yesterday. In one way it was hard to start putting my stuff away and splitting our lives apart, but in another it was the best form of therapy. It felt like a step in the right direction.
5. I found some ginger citrus hand cream from last year. I’m in love with this stuff and I swear if I could I’d walk around all day smelling my hands…mmmm….heaven!
Friday, October 1, 2010
Grateful
I was watching Oprah’s season 20 DVD’s last night. And the subject of a gratitude journal came up. I’m in a place where I really want to b*tch about the people in my office, but instead I’m going to list 5 things I’m grateful for today:
1. Payday yesterday and finally after over a year of struggling there have been a few pay cheques in succession that there is more money than bills instead of the other way around.
2. My holiday is coming up…5 more work days and then 9 days of holiday bliss!
3. Extra days off during Christmas – with pay! The GM came here today and told us we were going to close the offices on Dec. 24th & 27th. Yay!
4. A sunny day outside. No rain!
5. A good morning phone call from someone special, that made me happy and kept a smile on my face all day :)
1. Payday yesterday and finally after over a year of struggling there have been a few pay cheques in succession that there is more money than bills instead of the other way around.
2. My holiday is coming up…5 more work days and then 9 days of holiday bliss!
3. Extra days off during Christmas – with pay! The GM came here today and told us we were going to close the offices on Dec. 24th & 27th. Yay!
4. A sunny day outside. No rain!
5. A good morning phone call from someone special, that made me happy and kept a smile on my face all day :)
Monday, September 27, 2010
Good weekend
This weekend was one of the best I've had in a long time! Friday night I went to R's house after I got off work. He was working OT, so I was alone. I was able to just relax, made a few cards, watched some TV, it was nice.
Saturday we did some shopping and errands, then he made me supper and bought me flowers :) To show his appreciation...so cute!
Sunday we took his 1 year old daughter out to a park to take some photos. She just turned 1 last weekend and he wanted 1 year pictures. We got some really great ones. I was playing around with my camera and took the pic above. I love how the light hits the water just right.
Vacation starts in 2 weeks...I can't wait!
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Blah
I need a holiday...from life. I have the week off after Thanksgiving and I'm headed to my sisters house...I hope it gives the break I so desperately need.
C and I are still arguing daily. I'm starting to wear down. I don't have it in me to fight anymore with him. Usually this is the time I'd give in to whatever he wants just to make the fighting stop. Obviously I'm not going to do that, because that would mean staying, but I do want to not be at the house when he's there, turn off my cell phone and go hide out somewhere. ugh.
Nothing is really progressing at this time. He wants to take over the mortgage, he can have it, I don't care really. But until we pay down some bills or he gets the raise he's promised it's not going to happen. In the meantime, I'm not leaving with my name still on the mortgage.
Things with the new man are doing well. He's very sweet and protective of me. I'm headed to his place this weekend, it's been 2 weeks so I'm looking forward to the break. He's promised me a romantic relaxing weekend. And a visit with his 1 year old daughter. I'm looking forward to it.
C and I are still arguing daily. I'm starting to wear down. I don't have it in me to fight anymore with him. Usually this is the time I'd give in to whatever he wants just to make the fighting stop. Obviously I'm not going to do that, because that would mean staying, but I do want to not be at the house when he's there, turn off my cell phone and go hide out somewhere. ugh.
Nothing is really progressing at this time. He wants to take over the mortgage, he can have it, I don't care really. But until we pay down some bills or he gets the raise he's promised it's not going to happen. In the meantime, I'm not leaving with my name still on the mortgage.
Things with the new man are doing well. He's very sweet and protective of me. I'm headed to his place this weekend, it's been 2 weeks so I'm looking forward to the break. He's promised me a romantic relaxing weekend. And a visit with his 1 year old daughter. I'm looking forward to it.
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